So does my hypersexuality mean that I am Bipolar? A ‘friendly’ shrink once concluded I was
Hypersexuality it is often claimed, exists as a sympton of bipolar disorder. Also referred to as compulsive sexual behaviour, or sexual addiction, hypersexuality is commonly described as a “dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviours that are difficult to control”.
My response is only by those who have too little sexual imagination, making their sex urges easy to control! 😊
Nymphomania and satyriasis were terms previously used for the condition, in women and men respectively.
The description of bipolar hypersexual certainly sounds superficially like me at my peak!
Except that bipolar disorder is a rapid mood swing disorder in which a person experiences drastic mood swings — from feeling elated, energetic, and risky, to feeling depressed and uninterested.
And while I have had periods of depression in my life, including one major nervous breakdown, I do not experience regular and deep mood swings.
I have engaged in impulsive, reckless sexual behaviours and possess a significantly higher sex drive than most people (I suspect), but this impulse to make love has been a constant in my life, rather than part of repeated manic episodes.
I was permanently manic at the height of my sex addiction, before my erotic art diverted a crucial portion of my high sexual energy into my creative erotic artworks.
But while I have been some kind of quasi-hypersexual being, it isn’t provoked by bipolar disorder, at least as far as I can see.
But then, apparently, there is no formal definition for hypersexuality in any case.
People with bipolar disorder who are “experiencing hypersexuality” may:
*Have multiple sex partners
*Think about sex constantly
*Have one-night stands
*Be more interested in pornography
*Notice a rapid difference in their sexual behaviours
*Engage in other reckless behaviours, like driving too fast, drugs or gambling
I certainly fit the first three! And I have always resorted to watching porn when I have no lover/s. But my sexual behaviour is pretty constant and also consistently kinky!
My form of recklessness was largely confined to having many affairs, some simultaneously, and covering them up. The inability to control my fetishist sexual urges lead to my first broken marriages. I was also distraught over having hurt my first wife, who felt confused and angry for having been cheated on.
I have a highly developed conscience and suffer remorse for my many sins of omission (lies and half truths) and commission (affairs). And I hated the lying and leaving partners I liked. So at least I’m not a sociopath! 🤔
I was certainly a sexual adrenaline junkie, hooked on the frissons of danger (the danger of being caught and of exploting another new and perhaps dangerously unknown quantity partner) at the height of my hypersexual activities.
But do we need a clinical definition of hyperpersexual behaviours, viewed variously by clinicians and therapists as a type of Obsessive-Compulsive disorder (OCD) and an addiction, or a disorder of impulsivity, for people like me?
A number of authors do not acknowledge such a pathology exists and claim that the supposed condition merely reflects a cultural dislike of exceptional sexual behavior.
That’s where I tend to fall.
I’m a horny fetishist with a vivid imagination who sufficiently good looking and engaging to allow him to follow a somewhat dangerous hypersexualised lifestyle.
And the fact that me erotic art has freed me from a lot of the cravings and risk taking is a sign of this.
If I am OCD it’s more about my erotic art than my erotic urges these days.
But, I may be deluding myself.
The range of labels clinicians and therapists feel compelled to attach to people like me, when manic in the way I used to be, is extensive including:
Compulsive Masturbation, Compulsive sexual behavior, Cybersex Addiction, Erotomania (my favourite) “excessive sexual drive”, Hyperphilia, Hypersexuality, Hypersexual Disorder, Problematic Hypersexuality, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Compulsivity, Sexual Dependency, Sexual Impulsivity, “out of control sexual behavior”, and Paraphilia-related disorder.